I’ve noticed when I ask people how they are, so many respond with “Busy”, “Really Busy” “Soo Busy”…
Busy can be full on and wonderful and it can be crazy, out of control, overwhelming, stressful and exhausting. You have your work or business, your life, your partner, your parents, your children, your friends, extended family, pets etc and on it goes…
I used to wear busy a badge of honour and quite honestly, it made me sick. After being diagnosed with my third chronic auto immune disorder, I finally decided it was time to take stock and manage my energy better.
BUT HOW I hear you ask
Here’s a few simple suggestions to get you started:
Mind Your Language
This simply means stop saying you’re busy all the time.
This is even more important if you are in a leadership role because if you, as the leader are always busy, then your team is always busy and that creates an even bigger problem…
Think about it. When you hear other people talking about how busy they are, does it raise or deplete your own energy? If you can feel your energy drop, then it’s time to change your language and start speaking about being productive, on track and making progress.
Reframe Your Thinking.
If, like a lot of people, you look at your schedule in the morning and you feel exhausted before you even begin your day, check in and see what you are saying to yourself. When you look at you full schedule do you think “Oh no” Does your heart sink and you wonder how you are going to get through it all?
One thing you can do here is to look at each appointment or task, identify the opportunities to connect with others, to offer support, to engage with those you love and care for and to set your intentions accordingly. When you do this your energy will shift and you will enjoy your day more and feel a greater sense of purpose, connection and satisfaction.
Review your life.
Take 30 minutes and ask yourself the following questions:
- How healthy is your diet?
- How much exercise are you getting?
- How much time do you have to yourself every day?
- How much quality sleep do you get?
- What’s your fun habit?
- How often do you spend time outdoors?
Don’t be disheartened if you don’t like your answers. Awareness is the first step to making change. Maybe you can start asking for the support you want and need, spend more time planning and prioritising or start saying no so you can create a bit more balance in your life. Whatever you do, do something.
Change Your Story
Whatever your reason for being busy all the time, there is a story you tell. The first step to changing the story is to identify it and understand why you tell it, then you can decide if serves you or not and if it doesn’t you can decide to change your story and create the story you want to tell instead.
For example, when you hear yourself telling your ‘busy’ story, you might realise that you tell it because it makes you feel important or that you are telling the story of how you are saying no to what you really want to do and yes to what you don’t want to do. Either way, you can use this information to decide what story you want to tell instead and what you need to do to make that story a reality.
Check out your Environment
When I wore ‘busy’ as a badge of honour, I worked in an environment where ‘busy’ was valued and where it was almost frowned upon to be ‘not busy’.
If you feel you must be busy to fit in, whether at home, with friends, at work or in any other areas of your life then it’s time to check in and discover why so you can make some changes and create a new way of being in that environment.
The bottom line with busy is that if it works for you and your life and it leaves you energised and engaged then that’s wonderful. Alternatively, if being busy leaves you feeling overstretched, exhausted and resentful, then it might be time for a change.
Onwards Courageous Hearts!
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